Emotional Freedom Technique

”Tapping”, an alternative approach to managing anxiety,
stress, mood & more.
Jason Markel
Associate Marriage & Family Therapist
Authentic Counseling Associates

What is the Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping)?

EFT or Tapping is an alternative treatment for emotional
and/or physical distress.

Tapping is a brief intervention combining elements of
exposure therapy, cognitive therapy, and somatic
stimulation of acupressure points on the head, face and
body.

Tapping purports to access Meridian lines (energy lines)
to soothe and regulate physical and emotional distress.

How does Tapping work?

Tapping is done in a circuit. It is generally repeated
at least three times and when guided, scaling of
symptoms are monitored.

The subject will “tap” on various points along the
head, face, and upper body while combining
acknowledgment of emotion and a positive
affirmation with deep breathing.

Brief History of EFT

1962 – Dr. George Goodheart, DC began studying Acupuncture
and developed a technique he called “Applied Kinesiology”.

1970’s – Dr. John Diamond, an Australian Psychiatrist built upon this by developing “Behavioral Kinesiology” adding affirmations to treat emotional problems.

1980’s – Dr. Roger Callahan, an American Psychologist studied the
The meridian system of Acupuncture furthered this approach
calling it Thought Field Therapy.

1990’s – Gary Craig, an enthusiastic student of Dr. Callahan began
marketing his own version, calling it EFT, to the general public

EFT Uses & Controversy

EFT is used by medical, psychological, and alternative health
practitioners to treat a variety of issues such as Anxiety, Phobias,
Depression and PTSD.

Proponents of EFT claim that EFT is widely studied and evidence-based.

Opponents of EFT claim it is pseudoscience and essentially
“quackery”.

During the course of preparing this presentation, it appeared that
some of the research that is often presented as evidence in favor of
EFT had repeating authors’ names and potential conflicts of interest.

My (Limited) Clinical Experience

I have seen EFT used with clients who have severe PTSD from the
2018 Camp Fire in Paradise, CA with successful outcomes.

Every time I have used EFT with a client it has produced results with
at least mild improvement.

As someone who practices “energy work”, I can’t claim to be
completely impartial, but whatever the reasoning for positive
outcomes – I find EFT to be a beneficial tool.

A Chaplain Speaks

Tapping to release emotional & physical stress

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vsnr2t7_-Bg

References:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6381429/

What is EFT Tapping, and Can It Calm the ADHD Brain?

https://www.army.mil/article/45727/tapping_method_eases_stress_in_many

https://grainnemoneill.com/emotional-freedom-technique-history/

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/2515690X18823691

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/WendyComeau/publication/264552493_Assessment_of_the_Emotional_Freedom_T

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My Father At My Table
By Dr. Christopher Mathe

(8-10-98 to my father)

I’ve fought so long

            So hard to deny

With angry, righteous cries

            Your place at my table.

Your pain walled away

            But alive and leaking

Through so many cracks

            To form the dark parts of me.

All you were, I cannot be.

            I’m so much more aware, alive

I do so much more than survive

            I long to turn toward the light and reject all you are.

I could not imagine you

            Hurting and alone

A child holding off the terror.

            Carrying your father’s wound.

            As I carry yours

When I look closely

            At the parts unseen

You child peeks back.

While your wound is not mine

            I can accept your humanness

And your presence that helped

            Shape the man I’ve become.

Come, break your fast

            At my table.

I have more to learn

            More tears to cry.

You are welcome,

My father.

I pray I will be welcome

            At my son’s table some day.

Thoughts on Change

Quotes and reflections by Chris Mathe, PhD

There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
~ Anais Nin

To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.
~ Henri Bergson

Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.
~ James A. Baldwin

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.
~ Anatole France

A person needs at intervals to separate from family and companions and go to new places. One must go without familiars in order to be open to influences, to change.
~ Katharine Butler Hathaway

You cannot step twice into the same river, for other waters are continually flowing in.
~ Heraclitus

The important thing is this: To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.
~ Charles DuBois

We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.
~ Anais Nin

You must be the change you wish to see in the world.
~ Mohandas Gandhi
brainyquote.com

Change is a continuous process of widening our perspectives and allowing more possibilities into our lives. Yes, it’s inevitable and everything is constantly changing, but we can choose to ride this wave with wonder and abundance or with fear and grasping. The choices we make determine how much joy and pain we feel in the process.

Why embracing change is the key to a good life – BBC Culture
What Makes Change Difficult? | Psychology Today

 

Diet is so important in the all-around functioning and health of our bodies. They are linking diet with more and more ailments and find that changing our eating habits to eat cleaner and eating the recommended portion sizes can change our health around and aid in combating various diseases and problems.

by Dr. Chris Mathe

Making small changes in what we eat can make a big difference in our physical, mental, and emotional health.

Diet

• Food basics
• Where to start?
• Tracking and goals
• Staying motivated

Diet – Food Basics

• We truly are what we eat. Health is what we are after.
• What we know:
  • The more plant-based food, the healthier (some examples.. Healthy Plant-Based Recipes That Use Spring Seasonal Produce (thehealthfeed.com)
  • The less processed food, the healthier
  • The fresher fruits, vegetables, and nuts, the healthier
  • For most of us, fewer carbohydrates is healthier
  • For most of us, fewer calories per day is healthier.
• The benefits of changes accrue immediately.

Diet – Where to Start?

• Our goal is to change our relationship with food – Not find the next fad diet.
• Making small, incremental changes leads to a habit that will last the rest of our lives.
• Talk with a doctor or nutritionist. Identify areas in your diet that have the most room for increased health.
• Any sustained movement along the lines of “what we know” will make a difference in our health.
• Start small and incrementally. Use the tools in the next two sections.

Diet – Tracking and Goals

• Consider using a tracking app. If you don’t measure it, it is very difficult to change it. (Best Calorie Counter Apps of 2023 (verywellfit.com)
• By tracking, you quickly will get more mindful about what and how much you eat.
• Plan for those situations that are the most challenging.
• Give yourself reasonable daily goals and break down longer term goals into small ones. (20 Achievable Goals To Set for Your Personal Development | Indeed.com)

Diet – Staying Motivated

• Make it routine; Think in terms of “The Zone.”
• Get a buddy or buddies.
• Join a support group.
• Track it! Plan it!
• Establish goals.
• Know your “why.”

Summary

• The effects start today
• Start small
• Make it a practice
• Work on self-compassion

 

Connection
by Dr. Chris Mathe

Connecting with safe others – friends, family, and support groups – is vital to our physical, mental, and emotional health.

Connection

• Huge benefits to social connection
• Where to start?
• Long term view
• Getting help

Connection – Huge benefits

• Improved quality of life: Social connection is a greater determinant of health than obesity, smoking, and high blood pressure.
• Boost mental health: Increases in social connection increase sense of belonging, purpose, happiness, self-worth, and confidence. insufficient social support increases mental health disorders like anxiety and depression.
• Longer Life: Individuals with stronger social relationships had a 50% increased likelihood of survival.
• Decrease risk of suicide: Relationships can play a crucial role in protecting a person against suicidal thoughts and behaviors.

Connection – Where to start?

• Start by looking inward: What interests, hobbies, and personalities do you like? Become active in your community; volunteer; join a club or social organization.
• If you meet a potential friend: Create opportunities to spend time together. Relationships require time and effort. Forming strong, healthy relationships with others means opening up, actively listening, and being open to sharing what you’re going through.

Connection – Long-term view

• Much as we may dislike it, relationships come and go
• Life circumstances and personality needs change
• An engaged life means constantly forming potential friendships
• Seeking ways to improve self and becoming a good listener could be helpful

Connection – Getting help

• Some people, for a variety of reasons, have trouble forming and keeping relationships
• Often experiences in our pasts make us afraid of connection – potential loss, hurt, or betrayal
• Being an introvert does not mean disliking connection
• Often a therapist, men’s or women’s group, or a spiritual group can be helpful

Connection – Summary

• Social connections are as important as any of the Big 5 for our physical, mental, and emotional health
• Start with the types of people and the activities that draw you and keep at it
• If you are having trouble, seek help

Resources:

Social Connection Definition | What Is Social Connection (berkeley.edu)

Social Connection Boosts Health, Even When You’re Isolated | Psychology Today

Lifeline (988lifeline.org)

Mindfulness
by Dr. Chris Mathe, PhD

Cultivating more acceptance and awareness of one’s feelings, thoughts, body sensations, and surroundings can substantially decrease anxiety and increase peace.

Mindfulness…

• What is it?
• Why “cultivate” it?
• Where do I start?

Mindfulness – what is it?

• Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment with openness and curiosity.
• Mindfulness helps us cultivate the “observer” in us where we can build the capacity to notice more of what is happening inside and outside of us.
• It is a practice of accepting – not pushing away or chasing – our thoughts and feelings.
• Exactly like maintaining physical health with regular practice that builds structure, mindfulness practice helps build emotional health by building structure.

Mindfulness – why cultivate it?

• Mindfulness can support and sustain you, by helping you manage the stress of today’s world.
• The American Psychological Association shares research on a range of benefits of mindfulness, including stress reduction, boosts to working memory, increased focus, less emotional reactivity, more cognitive flexibility, more relationship satisfaction
• More than the health benefits, mindfulness can help us develop our deeper human capacities for awareness, attention, empathy, kindness, and compassion.

Mindfulness – where do I start?

• The “Raisin” experiment. The Raisin Meditation For Mindful Eating (+ PDF) (mindfulnessbox.com)
• Using everyday activities. How to Practice “Everyday Mindfulness” – Mindfulness Muse
• Use an app. 13 Best Meditation and Mindfulness Apps for 2023 (developgoodhabits.com)
• Make it a practice.

In Summary…..

• The effects start today.
• Start small.
• Make it a practice.

 

THE CHRISTMAS TRAP

Jonathan Venn, Ph.D.

The novelist and short-story writer Mary Flannery O’Connor famously said of her home in the southeastern U.S., “I think it is safe to say that while the South is hardly Christ-centered, it is most certainly Christ-haunted.”

That describes how I feel about Christmas in the United States of America.

Americans take all their goodwill and good wishes and shove them into one brief holiday season.

People being who we are, creates inevitably a sort of mental trap.  It is an opportunity once a year to check and see how much our loved ones really care about us.  How many presents will they give us?  How much money will they spend on us?  Will they send a card?  Will they remember to call?  Will they tell us that they love us?

Accompanying these cultural expectations — which I have never found in the New Testament — comes the almost-inevitable converse:  the Christmas snub.  When loved ones do not give us the right present, or don’t spend enough money, or don’t send a card, etc., we get our feelings hurt.  Every year we get this one opportunity to check out our families and test their love for us.  I do not think this is what Christ intended.  How nice it would be if, instead, we would just love each other every day, all year long, in a Christ-filled way!  It might be better than getting a Christmas card.

Creating Affirmations

Affirmations are one of the most powerful ways to help us change the way we feel at any particular moment. Unlike a general statement of “positive attitude,” an effective affirmation is a custom-designed statement that specifically targets your particular negative core beliefs. Since affirmations are, by their very nature, very personal statements, you can create and change your affirmations to suit your present situation and needs.

An effective affirmation has several basic characteristics

• It is positive
• It is true
• It is stated in the now–present tense
• It is brief and concise
• It uses active language

Here’s how to create an effective affirmation

• Identify 2-3 negative beliefs (e.g. I’m stupid, I’m unlovable, and I’m not good enough)
• Find the words or phrases that are the opposites of the negative beliefs and are true about you (e.g. I’m smart; I’m lovable; and I’m more than good enough)
• Arrange these words and phrases into a short statement that feels right to you – a statement that “sings” to you (e.g. I am a smart and lovable man who is more than good enough).

You can create affirmations for your general life and affirmations specifically designed for a particular challenge in your life. All you have to do is start with the particular negative beliefs – the negative statements you say about yourself – with regard to the challenge you are facing. Then just do the next two steps above to create the affirmation.

Here are a couple of great resources on the subject

20 Positive Affirmations You Can Use to Inspire Your Life (mindvalley.com)

An Attitude Of Gratitude Daily Journal: 80 Positive Affirmations +60 Things To Be Grateful For In Life: Books, Red Wheel: 9798530729041: Amazon.com: Books

Five Simple Things to Improve Your Life

 

1. 10 minutes of meditation

The research is very clear on the benefits of meditative practice to physical and emotional health. One of many apps available towards this end is Headspace. It is a Mindfulness-based meditative approach that is simple and very accessible. The first 10 meditations are free and can be repeated as much as you want. If you subscribe (about $100 per year), you have access to thousands of hours of meditations directed at a vast array of life situations and goals. Meditation and Sleep Made Simple – Headspace

2. Get 8 hours of sleep

Again, the research on the need for 7-8 hours of sleep is undeniable. Finding ways to rearrange one’s routine to generate more sleep is a very high payoff activity.

3. Write down 5 things you are grateful for

We are what we spend our energy and time on. By making a habit of purposely noticing what is right with your world; what you are grateful for, we realign how we experience ourselves and our world.
Benefits of Journaling – PositivePyschology.com

4. Perform an act of kindness

Similar to number 3 above, by purposely performing an act of kindness, we realign and build structure in our brains to see the world and ourselves more positively.

5. Move your body

Our bodies are made to move. Any increase in the movement of our bodies improves multiple bodily functions.

Improve your life!

Credit: Chelsea Bagias, PsyD.

Panic Attacks – What Are They?

Panic attacks are a set of symptoms that come on suddenly, putting your body into a “red flag alert” stance. The symptoms build to a peak rapidly, usually in ten minutes or less, although it can feel much longer. The common theme of the feelings and symptoms is one of impending doom and intense fearfulness or nervousness.

What are typical bodily symptoms?

• racing or pounding heart
• sweating, flushing, or feeling chilled
• chest pains or tightness
• difficulty getting your breath or a sense of smothering or choking
• dizziness, lightheadedness, tingling, or numbness
• trembling or shaking
• nausea or abdominal discomfort

What are typical feelings and thoughts during a panic attack?

The overriding feeling is one of fear. People who have panic attacks say they feel like something awful is going to happen at any moment. They may also feel disconnected to their surroundings. Some people have described it as feeling like they are in a bubble. Others have said that suddenly nothing feels real. They feel out of control and may even fear that they will die. They may also be afraid of “going crazy” or starting to scream or run or do something embarrassing.

Can panic attacks kill me or make me go crazy?

NO! Even though it may feel that way, a panic attack will not give you a heart attack and it will not kill you, and it will not go on forever. And panic attacks are not the beginning of going crazy. They are panic attacks, pure and simple. The National Institute of Mental Health estimates at least 3 million Americans will have panic disorder at some time in their lives.

What causes panic attacks?

Some people seem especially vulnerable to panic attacks. Sometimes anxiety problems, including panic attacks, seem to run in families. Your nervous system may be easily triggered. We also know that chronic stress can contribute to all kinds of problems with anxiety, including panic attacks. According to one theory, in panic disorder, the body’s normal alarm – it’s “fight or flight” reaction, may be triggered unnecessarily. Sometimes the first attack can also be triggered by a change in the body, such as a serious illness or even a medication.

I think I have panic attacks, and I’m worried about what others will think. I’ve started to avoid people.

Starting to avoid people and places is very common for people who have panic attacks. Many times, they have told no one about their experiences. But to get support and help, you must tell someone. Consider talking with your doctor or a family member or friend. You can explain what you have learned about panic attacks.

I think I’m also getting depressed and I’ve started drinking to calm my nerves.

Secondary depression is common in sufferers of panic attacks. Once you get help, the depression may lift. If not, there is good, effective help for your depression as well. Many people start to “self-medicate” when they are feeling bad and don’t know where to turn. Of course, this only adds an additional problem. And drinking or abusing drugs will not stop panic attacks.

What help is there for panic attacks?

It is very important that you see a qualified, experienced professional to treat your panic attacks. The disorder will seldom go away by itself and may in fact worsen. A professional will assess your unique situation and together you will agree on a treatment plan.

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